Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Men and women are inherently different. They share life, yet they live in two different worlds. This everlasting difference revealed a lot of problems and conflicts in the relationship between men and women.

Here by, we will have a look on the most important points:

* The Acceptance of the other:
To have a successful relationship, you have to accept the other as is. The trials you are doing to change your partner, to be a carbon copy of you, will lead you to a dead end. No one changes dramatically; you can try to change small actions or trivial habits of your partner, but deep inside, he will remain the same. These trials to change create an environment of problems, as you are always expecting your husband to do things your way. Meanwhile, he can not get why you’re never satisfied with what he does.

* The Communication:
To have a peaceful life and avoid major problems, you have to communicate regularly with your partner. As without communication, small problems tend to escalate into insoluble ones. But it is not just about talking to each other or discussing the problem; it is about how you communicate and your pattern of communication. For example, if we take a deeper look on the pattern of communication between a couple who are about to get separated – not necessarily that we will find that they don’t talk at all- they may be talking about the problem ,but it is the way they handle it that really matters. Sometimes, the woman has some issues she wants to talk about with her husband. The husband will try immediately to find solutions for what she said. But they both end up disappointed. Because sometimes the woman just needs to talk to someone they confide in, she is not expecting the husband to solve the problem. The man will be disappointed, thinking that he solved the problem, while his wife is still not happy. That explains the fact that the woman just needs a shoulder to cry on, rather than a solution for the problem.

* The Divorce:
Stated that women now have different expectations for their relationship. Years ago, all what women wanted was a good provider, and men fulfilled this need, so they lived happily.
Now women are more independent; they don’t need men for financial support, but they expect other things from their relationship; love, intimacy and romance. They expect to share their dreams and mainly hope to share their lives. But unfortunately, through years, men never succeeded to learn to provide romance and intimacy. The man can be ready to sacrifice his life for his wife, but not in the romantic way she expected. Nowadays, the man simply does not meet the woman's expectations; she is not happy and so is he, thus they get a divorce.

* The Need:
Another point of difference between men and women is what each one of them needs in a relationship. Women need love, romance, intimacy, stability and an ever lasting relationship.

For men it is not the case; what the man really wants of their relation ship, especially at the beginning of his life, is to feel successful, fulfilling, and providing his wife what she wants. However, men may need love, romance, and intimacy, but at a latter stage of his life; when they are over 40.

You Got A Job Offer. Now What?

GET IT IN WRITING

Nail down the details of the job offer by getting it in writing. This will prevent confusion and unnecessary squabbling in the future. Include the basics, starting with your salary, duties, hours, location, supervisor and job title.

THE DETAILS

When you have a job offer in hand, be sure to ask about vacation, health coverage, education allowance, stock options, bonuses and relocation expenses, if applicable.

NEGOTIATING YOUR SALARY

Do your homework. You don't want to undersell yourself or price yourself out of the market. Calculate the average salary for candidates with your educational background and experience. Then tell the prospective employer what sets you apart from the pack and why you deserve more.

SET A DEADLINE

The prospective employer will want an answer as quickly as possible. If you've got another offer in hand, or expect to receive one soon, give yourself ample time to consider both. A few days isn't unreasonable, but don't overdo it, or the prospective employer will think you're not passionate about the company or serious about the job.

FOLLOW YOUR GUT

After you've penciled things out, you're left with intangibles such as corporate culture and personal "fit" with the company. Decide what you want, and then follow your gut.

ACCEPTING THE JOB

Notify the hiring manager by phone when you accept a job, and follow up with a letter confirming your acceptance. Keep the letter short: State the agreed-upon salary, other terms and the start date. Then stick to it. Backing out after accepting an offer will kill any chance of working for the company in the future.

DECLINING AN OFFER

Be sure to thank the interviewer for taking the time to discuss job prospects when declining a job. Tell the interviewer why you found another job more challenging and why you accepted it. If you've turned down a job with a good company, don't slam the door on future discussions. Source: Forbes.com